I can't find any address for the author of Marie Therese- Susan Nagel. Though she did say,"It was here that the Queen , exhausted from the etiquette of the French court, banished curtsying and insisted that she be called by her first name."
It just seems more likely that if she wanted to be addressed informally she would have asked to be called Madame Antoine/ette.
Christophe wrote:
It was standard practice for the times (in France) to be addressed and go by the second name in the sequence. Usually a person was given three names, such as Louis-Charles-Etienne de Bellecour. He would have gone by "Charles." And so it was with Antoinette. She was never called "Marie," even at the Trianon. It simply wasn't the custom.
Yes, seeing as all her sisters and m any relatives were named Marie, I can see why this practice would be needed. Even though we can never know 100%, I think you are correct in judging by what was custom.
As much as she came to love France, It also seems that she was perpetually homesick, so it would make sense if she wanted to go by Madame Antoine.
I think either way we can feel comfortable that in private she was addressed as either Madame Antoine or Antoinette. Could depend on where the visitor was coming from too. Austria vs France.